Close…though not Close-by

I have recently been spending time with relatives/friends who I only see every few years, yet the love does not seem diminished.  I have come to believe that once certain relationships achieve a connection, they can withstand time and distances.  However, there may be people in your life that you see more regularly who you don’t feel as close to.

I have a friend who moved to the US after marriage and now has 7 & 10-year-old boys who were born here.  She and her husband often discuss whether they should move back to India since they have all their extended family there.  She told me she is happy with her life here and the kids don’t want to move but she fears that the kids won’t be close to their relatives given their infrequent visits.  Many other friends of their’s were moving back to India since the job opportunities weren’t very different yet people chose to go where they had more friends and family.

I told my friend that I also grew up here with only my immediate family and only saw grandparents or other relatives every few years.  However, I am still very close to my cousins who are all over the world now.  Even if we don’t speak regularly, we keep in touch through emails or Facebook and when we meet up it is as if no time has passed.  We don’t waste time complaining about who doesn’t call enough since we all realize that our daily lives can be hectic.  Instead we just catch up and enjoy the genuine caring.  My friend was reassured that her kids could stay connected to their family as well.

I feel this way with so many friends as well.  There are many friends who still feel like your best friends even if you don’t see each other for months or sometimes years.  Some bonds cannot be broken easily I guess.  I am very thankful for this fact since I do get caught up in the daily routine and don’t make enough time to call friends.  I’m glad they don’t hold a grudge and still appreciate that they are in my heart and in my thoughts.  We just accept and enjoy each other for who we are.  This is what I consider a true friendship.  I hope my kids build relationships like these in their lives too.

About Reena

I'm a stay-at-home/sometimes working mom who has lots of opinions on Entertainment, Books, Parenting and Life in general! My thoughts stem from my experiences as a former career professional, mom, wife, and as a wacky, wonderful, woman! Friends have told me for years to share my thoughts publicly about the latest movies and TV shows so I finally am but I have lots of other thoughts to share so now I ramble here...
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2 Responses to Close…though not Close-by

  1. Janice Singh says:

    Reena, I can’t agree with you more. My best friend (of 40 years) and I met when we were 10 years old. I moved away from her in 7th grade, and we have remained friends all these years. (Sometimes I think that the distance is what has helped keep our relationship fresh!)

    Another dear friend whom I met in 8th grade, lives in Rochester, NY. Again, I moved away in 10th grade but we remained friends. We don’t see each other often, but whenever we talk it’s like we never missed a beat.

    The good friends I made in my adult years have been with me for 15-20 years now…and live in Massachusetts!

    I am not lucky enough to have any family nearby. We are scattered between MA, NY, CO, GA, CA, TX and VA. The family that is nearby, we never see. Our kids are super close with my parents and only see them 4 times a year.

    I believe that relationships are what you make them. It is a two-way street. If distance is a factor, then keep in touch with phone, email, webcam, facebook, blogging, or whatever it takes! It makes your times together even more sweet.


    • Reena says:

      Glad to hear more experiences like mine. I don’t often see my best friends from high school and college but when we finally do a ‘girl’s night’ or an afternoon of catching up it’s like no time has passed. Just like we have a great time when we see you guys- even though it’s rare.


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