I have recently been spending time with relatives/friends who I only see every few years, yet the love does not seem diminished. I have come to believe that once certain relationships achieve a connection, they can withstand time and distances. However, there may be people in your life that you see more regularly who you don’t feel as close to.
I have a friend who moved to the US after marriage and now has 7 & 10-year-old boys who were born here. She and her husband often discuss whether they should move back to India since they have all their extended family there. She told me she is happy with her life here and the kids don’t want to move but she fears that the kids won’t be close to their relatives given their infrequent visits. Many other friends of their’s were moving back to India since the job opportunities weren’t very different yet people chose to go where they had more friends and family.
I told my friend that I also grew up here with only my immediate family and only saw grandparents or other relatives every few years. However, I am still very close to my cousins who are all over the world now. Even if we don’t speak regularly, we keep in touch through emails or Facebook and when we meet up it is as if no time has passed. We don’t waste time complaining about who doesn’t call enough since we all realize that our daily lives can be hectic. Instead we just catch up and enjoy the genuine caring. My friend was reassured that her kids could stay connected to their family as well.
I feel this way with so many friends as well. There are many friends who still feel like your best friends even if you don’t see each other for months or sometimes years. Some bonds cannot be broken easily I guess. I am very thankful for this fact since I do get caught up in the daily routine and don’t make enough time to call friends. I’m glad they don’t hold a grudge and still appreciate that they are in my heart and in my thoughts. We just accept and enjoy each other for who we are. This is what I consider a true friendship. I hope my kids build relationships like these in their lives too.