Why the never-ending ‘Mom guilt’?

Lately, I’ve noticed that whether you’re a working mom or stay at home with the kids, you can’t escape the ‘mom guilt’.  It is a phenomenon that keeps good, caring women feeling insecure and inadequate.  Many working moms have expressed feeling bad that they are missing time with their kids while pursuing their careers or feel overwhelmed with the stress of giving the kids enough time and attention after an exhausting day of work.  On the other hand, moms who have made a full-time job of caring for the kids and family feel like they are not living to their full potential because they don’t have a separate career.  Whether it’s because the husband voices his pressures as the sole-earner or because you feel judged by working moms who believe you to be lazy or just too simple-minded to have a career, the insecurity looms.  You feel like you’re not doing enough.

In current times, women are able to do most anything men can and we expect ourselves to.  That’s why not having a successful career like your husband doesn’t seem okay anymore.  However, nature put us in the position of being the ones to carry and give birth to our children so that gives us extra responsibility.  Additionally, women are naturally more emotional, patient and nurturing so we can’t escape our own desires to be there for our children’s every need.  The dads these days take more responsibility for the kids and want to spend time with them. However, I think they feel good about the time they got to spend and don’t generally fault themselves so much for what they couldn’t do.  Is it a Mars/Venus thing?  Is it about the struggle with changing gender-roles? Or, is it that women, as more sensitive beings, just have more capacity to feel guilt?….

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About Reena

I'm a stay-at-home/sometimes working mom who has lots of opinions on Entertainment, Books, Parenting and Life in general! My thoughts stem from my experiences as a former career professional, mom, wife, and as a wacky, wonderful, woman! Friends have told me for years to share my thoughts publicly about the latest movies and TV shows so I finally am but I have lots of other thoughts to share so now I ramble here...
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