“Home”- The Movie

Home, home movie, jim parsons, rihanna, oh, boovThis weekend, we watched Dreamworks’ new animated film, Home.  It was a cute movie with cute characters but nothing to write home about (pardon the pun).  The main character, Oh, was a fun little alien played by Jim Parsons.  For fans of Parsons (and Sheldon), he does not disappoint.  His character is endearing and logical and speaks in a funny way.  He’s basically the awkward guy with good intentions.  The other main character is a feisty tween girl named Tip who has been separated from her mother by this alien invasion.  Tip is played by Rihanna and her mother, by Jennifer Lopez.  Tip is a decent character though not overly likable at first.

The movie starts out a bit slow and disjointed but picks up in the second half.  There are nice songs playing throughout, all Rihanna’s of course.  Steve Martin voices the leader of the Boov aliens and plays a funny character who is best at running away.  My kids enjoyed the movie and I thought it was decent.  However, I was shocked that the theater was packed and our first choice of shows was actually sold out.  This movie really lucked out that there isn’t much else out there and people seem to be itching to watch movies.  There is no other reason that this movie should have brought in crowds like that.  I would have been fine waiting for this one on DVD but like I said, my family was also eager to go to the theater and Home lucked out.

The other thing that surprised me at the theater was the amount of inconsiderate people there.  This doesn’t relate specifically to this movie but it didn’t help my viewing experience.  There were people who brought babies with them.  Just because it is a kids’ movie doesn’t mean bring a baby who is going to keep making noises the whole time.  The other annoying thing was people who kept turning on their cell phone to look at it during the movie.  These inconsiderate adults think that since they aren’t talking it is fine but the light from their device is very disruptive as well.  I could understand someone looking discreetly one time in case of an emergency, but this was not the case.  It seemed to be a bored parent who was taking out their phone over and over.  It was like someone turning on a flashlight in the middle of the dark theater.  I wish people would stop doing these things.  Despite all this, I felt Home was an okay but not great movie!

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The Things I No Longer Enjoy From My Twenties

twenties, forties, fun, aging, growing upIt’s funny how our definition of fun changes over the years.  I was recently thinking about all the things that I did in my twenties and how many of them are no longer appealing.  Some may say that I’ve gotten more boring over the years but I think the definition of fun has just changed for me and many people who are well past their twenties.

One thing that I know I no longer enjoy is getting drinking too much and suffering for it the next day.  I actually don’t even want alcohol now unless it is something I really like and can’t pass up the taste.  Otherwise, I would rather save those calories and eat dessert instead.  Of course there are social occasions where we just drink with our friends because that is what everyone is doing, but even then I have my limits.  I want to make sure there is a sober driver to get home and I want my wits about me.  A little bit of a buzz is enough to feel relaxed and giddy if that is what I’m in the mood for.  I want to be able to sleep well and not feel miserable when the kids wake me the next morning.  It just isn’t worth it to me anymore.  Now, my idea of a fun girls’ night out is more about chatting, dancing, or relaxing with friends (maybe even a spa).  To someone in their twenties, that might sound lame but I’ve been in their shoes and I’m over it now.

Another thing I enjoyed in my twenties was eating fast food.  I would sometimes crave Taco Bell or a quick burger and fries.  Now, for some reason, those things leave me feeling sick.  My kids still drag me to these places once in a while but I dread it now.  I think my body has aged and can’t handle the mystery ingredients.  Or, possibly, my attempts at being healthier have left me more sensitive to the greasy, less healthy options.  Either way, I don’t think this is a bad thing.  It just means I eat better food but also more expensive meals.

High heel shoes were my friends years ago but they have turned on me since.  I used to love wearing all types of high-heeled shoes- stilettos, wedges, etc.  I would walk through the city and then go dancing for hours in my heels.  Now, I’m paying for it.  I wear comfortable shoes throughout the week and then if I wear dressy heels (nothing too high now) on the weekend, I have sore feet for days.  I watch people on TV in stilettos and I feel pain.  I still have lots of sexy high heel shoes in my closet but I ignore them and opt for nicely cushioned, boring shoes.

I used to be a phone person when I was younger, especially before I had kids.  I would talk to friends for an hour at a time and many of them daily.  Now, I find it such a chore to use the phone.  I am so much happier texting or IM’ing or even emailing people.  I don’t know if this is a good thing or not but things just evolved.  This just suits my schedule now since I can write to people in one of these mediums and then work or kids can happen around me.  For a phone call, I need quiet and focus and can’t multitask as much.  Maybe that brings the quality of the communication down but at least I can still keep in touch that way and not look for an ideal time to call.

Many things have changed over a decade or two.  I’m sure I’ll think of others and write a sequel to this post.  For now, these are the good/bad changes over the years.  I’m sure many of us have our own lists.  Feel free to share yours with me!

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Parenting is an Exercise in Loving and Letting Go

growing up, letting go, parenting, changeOne of the hardest things about parenting, in my opinion, is being able to constantly love your kids and then let them go.  I don’t just mean letting them go when they are grown up and move out.  I’m referring to the constant changes you face while they are under your care.

You fall in love with the cute little baby that you bring home from the hospital.  Though, just as you start to really know him (or her), he changes and becomes a toddler who is looking for independence and throwing tantrums.  As much as you love this toddler, part of you misses the baby he was.  Then as you accept this new little person, he becomes a pre-schooler who isn’t with you all the time and doesn’t need to be carried.  Though the break from constant parenting is nice, it’s hard to send your constant companion away for those hours.  When you create a new routine to fill the gap, suddenly this little one is ready for elementary school.  Now, he’s really not a baby anymore.  You reminisce about the cute, cuddly days, the days when you were his world.  Then you tell yourself, this is better than all the carrying and diaper-changing years were.  Now, he has a vibrant personality and talks about all kinds of interesting things.  It is amazing to see him think and grow.  Though each year, a bit of that innocence and the dependence is disappearing.  One day it won’t be cool to hug your parents.  Slowly, there are more secret conversations and more that is kept inside.  As a parent, you want to know, to protect, to make sure nothing is wrong.  But, they are growing up and feel the need to handle some things on their own.  You have to learn to let go and pray that it will all work out.  You have to put your faith in the upbringing you gave and hope that they will make good choices.  You also have to have faith in the love that you gave and hope that they will always love you, even if it may not be cool to constantly say it.  You will still look back, however, and sometimes miss that infant, or toddler, or pre-schooler that once graced your life…

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The Imitation Game- A Mom Review

The Imitation Game, ok for kids, child appropriate, is Imitation Game ok for kids, movie, benedict cumberbatchThe Imitation Game is a brilliant movie based on the real life of Alan Turing, who is the pioneer of modern-day computing.  Benedict Cumberbatch is one of the many amazing actors who bring this story to life.  He plays Turing, who is recruited by MI6 to break the Nazi Enigma code and help win the war.  He leads a team of geniuses, including Keira Knightly and Allen Leech (of Downton Abbey).  The team dynamics are interesting to watch since there is a battle of egos and Turing is very socially awkward.

Turing’s life is also very difficult because of his homosexuality at a time when it was considered illegal.  In fact, the movie begins with the police investigating a burglary at Turing’s home.  Later they arrest this war hero for gross indecency.  It is a touching story about the life of this genius to whom we owe so much.

My 12-year-old son wanted us to take him to see this movie but we didn’t take him.  I had read some reviews that made it seem like the homosexuality angle was discussed a lot.  Though my son knows about homosexuality, I really didn’t want him going to a movie that went into details about any sexuality.  However, when I went to the movie, I didn’t feel like there was too much inappropriate discussion for a boy his age.  I thought the movie might be interesting for him despite being a mature drama.  Turing’s hard work, brilliance, perseverance, and dealing with his social issues would be good to show a child.  There was one scene where he mentions his penis being touched but that was the only thing I flinched at as far as inappropriate for a child.  There are no sexual scenes though.  I may let my kids watch this on DVD and try to forward or gloss over that one discussion.

For adults, however, I think this movie is very good and compelling to watch.  I learned so much that I didn’t know.  It also tugs at your heartstrings to watch the personal struggles and achievements of this brilliant man.  I definitely recommend it and think Benedict Cumberbatch deserves an award for his acting.

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The Hobbit- The Battle of the Five Armies, A Mom Review

The Hobbit, The battle of five armies, Tolkien, Peter Jackson, kid-appropriateThis weekend we watched The Hobbit- The Battle of the Five Armies in 3D.  It was quite a spectacle.  As the title suggests, the movie is basically a battle.  There is not too much else going on but it does wrap up the story nicely.  I will miss my trips to Middle-earth.  J.R.R. Tolkien, I wish you were around to write more!

The elves were my favorites and Peter Jackson did an amazing job with the special effects. They fight in an almost choreographed, graceful style.  We also get to delve into the psyche of Thorin Oakenshield.  He shows his dark and light sides and it keeps us guessing (unless you’ve read the book).  It’s also interesting to watch the choices and actions of Bilbo Baggins, who is our real hero.

As for a mom review….both my boys really enjoyed the movie.  They are now 12 and 10 years old and had seen the first two Hobbit movies as well.  Because of that, we didn’t even debate whether this would be appropriate.  However, I must warn that this installment is definitely more violent and gory than the first ones.  I guess the story is about a battle mainly so it is not surprising.  Overall, I recommend watching this movie in the theater since it is an epic story with great visuals!  So long, Middle-earth….

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The Theory of Everything- Mom Review

Theory of Everything,  Hawking, movie, good for kidsThe movie, The Theory of Everything, leaves you quite in awe of Stephen Hawking if you weren’t already.  It is a story about his struggles with his career interests and his struggles with his disease and how the illness pushes him to succeed.  It is also a story of his marriage to Jane and all that they go through together as she cares for him through his decline.

Eddie Redmayne does an amazing job portraying the character of Stephen Hawking.  It is a tough role physically to show the symptoms of ALS while still maintaining the amazing mind and personality of Hawking.  Felicity Jones also does a great portrayal of his wife, Jane.  She shows strength of character and sensitivity while also making us feel her pain and struggles as a mother and wife in this difficult situation.

It is touching as a story of a relationship but also inspiring to watch one of the greatest minds fight to get his theories across.  I really enjoyed this movie.  My older son, who is 12, wanted to watch this movie with us but we didn’t take him and told him maybe on DVD if we deem it is appropriate.  I think it is fine for him to watch because there isn’t an issue of bad language, gore or sexual scenarios.  However, I don’t think he would really enjoy it.  It is less about the scientific discoveries and more about his relationship.  It is inspiring to see him defy the 2 year life expectancy he was given with his diagnosis but I don’t think my son would’ve appreciated the movie.  I think he might have gotten bored since he would have wanted to hear more about space.  For adults, however, it is not boring at all!

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Loss and Understanding

Today I woke up to learn that a neighbor of our’s died of cancer.  Her kids are in 4th and 7th grade and her son is very close to my boys.  I’ve been so sad because they are a very nice family and the kids are sweet and wonderful and this all seems so unfair.  I have had friends who have lost parents at early ages (some in their teens or twenties) and I know what a hole it left in their hearts and lives.  These kids are even younger and at a much more needy and impressionable age.  Their mom was well in the beginning of the year and then gone by the end.  I can’t even fathom.  It could have happened to anyone but God or fate chose them.

I hope my prayers can help them gain strength.  They are a well-liked family so I know there will be support but it won’t replace their loss.  There is really no understanding all this.  I’m not in anyway ready to lose my parents and I am grown with children of my own.  All I can do is cherish all the blessed time I have with my family.  I can make sure my kids stay close to her son since this 9 year old will need friends.  I can tell from the reaction of my kids that they don’t understand death at this age.  I don’t know if we ever do.

I just think these tragedies remind us not to take each other for granted.  It shows us that silly things are not worth getting upset over.  It reminds us that we should cherish each moment with our loved ones.  We can just pray that none of our loved ones are taken too soon but we can’t really control fate.

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